Hey

This post is about triggers and how it is important to feel angry at them, in order to let them go w|o ripping

So it’s the old adage of feel all my feelings unconditionally w|o judgement.

And then at some point, down the line, comes the realisation that it probably wasn’t meant that way.

For examply I w @ Sainsbury’s today. The guy at the checkout said what a bag, I felt so offended and felt angry, a little.

I feel that the trigger is a moment of feeling threatened; so it’s important for me to put up my defences, to avoid ripping.

Then someone usually says something that is part of the conversation that shows that the person w talking about someone else.

This is freedom from the rip; and it’s a very sweet moment.

I have been collecting these moments like special treasures that mean a lot to me; and they do kinda add up to being a bit more chill about when people say stuff.

Tho it is even more important to feel a little angry in the awareness of this bc it’s so easy for me to lower my defences k ing this, and this w just let the rip in.

So I absolutely still feel angry for a while until I feel like or get some cue that it w not meant that way.

It’s like the mind w believe what the thinker is telling it.

Like, when I w having my wound changed I felt that I had done something wrong saying that I needed to sort my washing machine out..

Tho it w the actual thought that I had done something wrong that changed my reality and made it look like she w cross w me.

See this is how important reality is, the ability to not tell ourselves things that are bad for us to believe.

Like in business. I used to do positive affirmations, telling myself that I loved everything about the business.

The psychological effect this had on me w that I c never think that it w never work out.

How c I think that when I w so invested in the joy of taking care of things. The mind won’t have it, it just won’t poison something that gives the thinker so much joy.

It is the attitude towards something that decides whether the person w be successful or not.

This is why Mindset and attitude are Absolutely key w a business. Focussing on mindset is the way to make it happen.

It’s all about the reality of the person, this is the most important thing; bc if the reality is telling the person that it is likely to succeed then the person will be seeing signs to back this up

And if the person is in serious doubt, then the mind w look for signs to back this up also.

It’s like the nurse. My mind bent reality… To back up the thought that I had said something wrong. It does this.

Notice how when triggered and ripped, it seems like every single person is saying something that backs up the flavour of the trigger the rip, that it all means something along the same lines.

This is how the mind bends reality to meet the expectations of the thinker.

This is why it is so important to have the right mindset.

On the other hand; the fact that I get angry when offended and then don’t even wait for the cue to come along to reject thinking that, it comes tho it’s unhealthy to expect it; important to stay angry.

So w a business as well, it might be good for some people to truly embrace the feeling that it won’t work and stay angry as long as possible, until the sign that they have been completely wrong to doubt themselves.

Personally this w never work for me

To Introspection

Kirsty